You Avoid Difficult Conversations?

How to Take Charge and Make Your Voice Heard

Most people encounter a time in their life when
they have to engage in difficult conversations
for any number of reasons. However, people tend
to dread initiating difficult conversations and
as a result delay them as long as possible.

However, when difficult conversations are delayed
they often become even more problematic. Difficult
conversations often include confrontations,
complicated subject matters, extreme emotions,
and plenty of other reasons that make people fear
them.

However, you can learn how to initiate and handle
difficult conversations without fear or anxiety
by simply initiating the following tips.

1. Make Time

The first hurdle people encounter when it comes
to initiating difficult conversations is time. It
is too easy to say you do not have time for the
conversation, simply because you want to avoid
it. However, ask yourself when you do have time
and then schedule a meeting for a specific time.

By doing this you are creating a time for the
awkward conversations to occur and will not be
able to back away.

2. How Will You Express Your Views

Difficult conversations do not have to be tense
or anticipated with anxiety. In fact, you should
think about what you want to say, ask, or learn
from tricky conversations before you begin so
you will know how to start and guide the
conversation. Also, you will not forget to ask
specific questions if you have prepared ahead of
time.

3. Focus on the Situation

When it comes to difficult conversations it is
also very important to focus on the situation at
hand instead of the person. This will allow you
to get through the conversation without upsetting
the individual unnecessarily.

Awkward conversations are difficult enough
without bringing specific people into it, simply
focus on the situation at hand. Also, do not
allow past events to come into the conversation
either, especially if you have already discussed
these.

4. Goals

What are you hoping to achieve from the difficult
conversations you must initiate? Set clear goals
for yourself before initiating awkward
conversations so you will know where you are
going and when you have met specific goals.

By doing this you will have an outline for your
conversation. Also, you will know if you have
been successful or not by whether or not your
goals were met.

Difficult conversations will always be difficult,
but you do not have to be scared of them or put
them off when you can simply learn some tools to
help you through them.

Follow these tips and make sure you are always
calm, cool, and collect when entering into
potentially tense conversations in order to have the
perspective and presence of mind to engage in the
conversation.

What else can you do?

Excellent communications skills are your ticket to more
fun, laughter and happiness. To have more special moments
and great evenings out you only need to master one crucial
set of skills - people skills.

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7 Investing Rules with Confidence

RULE #1: Risk is NOT in the investment, it’s in the investor

That sounds like a little sound bite, but if you learn it well, it is really the most important investing lesson you can learn.

If you are an expert in a particular investment and it is something you love and are good at (it feels "easy"), then there's very little risk for you to invest most of your money in that one investment.

On the other hand, someone who doesn't know anything about that same investment could be taking a HUGE risk putting any money into it.

Why? Because they may not know how to recognize or adjust when the investment starts changing or going bad.

So an investment may be relatively "safe" for a professional investor — but the same investment could be risky for an amatuer investor because it's outside of his area of expertise and knowledge.

RULE #2: Know what you want

This sounds obvious, but most amateur investors invest in things willy-nilly and without a plan, just like I did early on. For every investment you make, you should know beforehand what you want to accomplish. Professional investors always have a specific plan for every investment. So should you.

RULE #3 Be accountable

This doesn't mean you will always be RESPONSIBLE for failed investments. What it does mean is that you will always hold some level of responsibility with every investment, because it's up to you to assess all risks going in. So it’s ultimately on you if you didn’t have a plan to deal with the contingencies that may occur one or two years into an investment.

RULE #4 Invest in alignment with your strengths (your investor DNA)

Essentially, find things you are passionate about and that meet your objectives and align with your Soul Purpose (something we help you identify in my "New Rules to Get Rich" program).

RULE #5 Invest in what you know well

This goes goes hand in hand with rule #4 — but I’m amazed at how many people invest in things they know nothing about. Being passionate about something isn't enough. Get educated about it first before you take the plunge to invest in it.

RULE #6 Be patient and willing to say NO to an opportunity

Too many amateur investors love to rush into every investing opportunity they see. The pros wait patiently for GREAT opportunities.

For example, Warren Buffett owns 200 million shares of Coca-Cola and it is one of his most famous investments. Here’s the thing. Buffett didn’t buy Coke in little bits and pieces over time (dollar cost averaging). Instead, he always bought huge chunks of shares when the price was right — sometimes waiting 5-7 years between purchases.

Be patient for GREAT deals where you are knowledgeable and passionate about the investment.

RULE #7 Always have an exit strategy

People like to talk about “buy and hold” as being a great strategy. Everyone always points to Warren Buffett as the model for that. Now if you truly model how Warren Buffett invests, you quickly find that his way of doing "buy and hold" is completely different than what most people think he's doing.

The fact is — all professional investors (even Buffett) have exit strategies. They know the signs to look for and when to get out.

And while Buffett does have some stocks that he never plans to sell, it's part of a bigger strategy because he's dealing with a company that will outlive him by many generations. You don't have that luxury, so you're going to be much better off with assets that produce cash flow you can use now rather than trying to blindly "buy and hold" hoping for future gains because a financial planner told you to.
 

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Muslim paris

This should be shared to the whole world so everyone could see there is no terrorism in any religion. We all are human being. Don't make a double standard.

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Large cat vs Normal cat

The largest cat choose to accept challenge from a normal cats see who is winning. You might be surprised.

Scottish fold history

In 1961 Scottish shepherd William Ross noticed a white cat with strange, folded ears at a neighbor's farm near Coupar Angus in the Tayside Region of Scotland. Realizing the uniqueness of this cat's 'lop' ears, he asked around and found that the feline was a barn cat of no particular pedigree. Named Suzie, the cat belonged to Ross's neighbors, the McRaes.

Ross learned that Susie's mother was a straight-eared white cat. Her father was unknown, so it was unclear whether Susie was the first of her kind, or whether the folded ears had simply never been noticed before. Susie's brother was also a Fold, but he wandered away, never to be seen again.

Ross and his wife, Mary, were enchanted by the feline and when Susie produced two folded ear kittens a year later, they acquired one, a white beauty like her mother whom they named Snooks.

The Rosses started a breeding program and proceeded to investigate establishing a new breed by attending cat shows and talking with breeders. At this time, they called the breed 'lop-eared', after the rabbit variety.

In 1966 the Rosses began registering their cats with the Governing Council of the Cat Fancy and, along with other enthusiasts, began the long process of achieving acceptance for their folded friends. By the end of the decade the breed was renamed the Scottish Fold.

In the early 1970s, however, the GCCF stopped registering Folds because of concerns about ear disorders such as infections, mites, and hearing problems. To continue in the show ring, the Scottish Fold had to give up its kilts and bagpipes and move to America.

Folds were first introduced to the United States in 1970 when three of Snook's kittens were sent to Dr. Neil Todd at the Carnivore Genetics Research Center in Massachusetts, who was researching spontaneous mutations. He eventually abandoned his research, but located homes for his Folds. One of his cats found his way to Salle Wolfe Peters in Pennsylvania, who is chiefly responsible for developing the breed in the United States. Other Folds were later imported to the United States. All genuine Scottish Folds can be traced back to Susie's line.

The Scottish Fold was accepted for CFA registration in 1973; in 1978 it received Championship status. In an amazingly short period, the Fold earned acceptance in all the cat associations and a place in the U.S. cat fancy's top ten most popular breeds.

The long haired version of the breed was not officially recognized until the mid-1980s, although longhair kittens have been cropping up in the Scottish Fold litters since the genesis of the breed. Susie may have carried the long hair gene, being a barn cat of uncertain origin. The use of Persians in early crosses also helped to establish the longhair gene. CFA, CCA, ACFA, NCFA, ACA, CFF, AACE, UFO, and TICA have accepted the Scottish Fold Longhair for Championship.

The Scottish Fold Longhair is known by four different monikers, depending on the association and area you live in. ACFA, AACE, and UFO refer to the breed as the Highland Fold. TICA, NCFA, ACA, CCA, and CFA call the breed the Scottish Fold Longhair, and CFF refers to the breed as the Longhair Fold. Canadian breeders also call them the Coupari.

Copyright © 1998 by Barron's Educational Series, Inc. based on
ENCYCLOPEDIA OF CAT BREEDS by J. Anne Helgren.

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Leading the muscle car charge at SEMA 2015 was this vintage Mustang Mach IV from the Galpin Auto Sports collection. Proving that you can never have too much power, Gary Weckesser’s 1969 Ford Mustang funny car has not one but four 5.8-litre Windsor V8s putting out a combined 3,000bhp. That’s enough to propel it through the quarter-mile in a mere seven seconds and hit 180mph in the process. That’s not just funny – it’s hilarious.

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Deepavali: Hukum menyambut dan mengucap tahniahOleh: Ahmad Mouhyideen bin HasinPengarah Operasi, Majlis Penyelidikan dan Tafaqquh, Dewan Ulamak PAS PusatPerayaan Deepavali atau juga dieja dengan Divali, merupakan salah satu perayaan keagamaan yang terbesar kepada penganut Hindu. Ianya berlangsung selama 5 hari bermula daripada hari ke-13, pada pertengahan bulan Ashvina hingga dua hari pertama bulan baru Kartika dalam kalendar Lunar.Nama ini berasal daripada istilah Sanskrit dipavali, yang bermaksud “sebarisan pelita” yang mana dinyalakan pada malam tahun baru untuk meraikan kehadiran Lakshmi, Dewa Kekayaan. Bagaimanapun, di Bengal, mereka menyembah dewi Kali. Di utara India, perayaan ini pula adalah untuk meraikan kembalinya dewa Rama, Sita, Lakshmana dan Hanuman ke bandar Ayodhya, dimana keadilan undang-undang Rama akan dilaksanakan (www.britannica.com).Jelasnya, perayaan Deepavali adalah perayaan agama dan bukannya adat kaum India kerana ia berkaitan dengan dewa-dewa yang disembah oleh penganut agama Hindu. Islam mengharamkan penganutnya terlibat dengan amalan / perayaan bukan Islam yang berbentuk agama sepenuhnya. Ia berdasarkan kepada hadis Rasulullah s.a.w. yang melarang menyerupai orang bukan Islam.Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w. yang maksudnya: "Sesiapa yang meniru sesuatu kaum maka ia termasuk daripada kalangan mereka" (Riwayat Abu Daud). Rasulullah s.a.w juga bersabda yang maksudnya: "Bukan daripada kalangan kami orang yang meniru golongan yang lain" (Riwayat Tirmizi).Berkaitan mengucapkan tahniah kepada orang kafir pada perayaan mereka, terdapat perselisihan pendapat di kalangan ulama. Syeikh Ibn Taimiyyah dan Syeikh Ibnu Qayyim al-Jawziyyah adalah antara Ulamak yang mengharamkan ucapan tersebut. Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah dalam kitabnya Ahkam Ahli-Azzimmah berkata: "Dan adapun ucapan tahniah terhadap syiar yang telah dikhususkan kepada orang kafir adalah haram secara sepakat, seperti ucapan tahniah terhadap perayaan dan puasa mereka dengan ucapan Eid Mubarak ‘Alaika / tahniah atas perayaan ini atau sebagainya."Golongan ulamak salafi yang terkemudian seperti Syeikh Ibn Baz, Syeikh Soleh Utsaimin dan Syeikh Ibrahim bin Muhammad al-Huqail juga telah mengharamkan ucapan tahniah ini dengan mengambil dalil-dalil yang diberikan oleh Syeikh Ibnu Taimiyyah dan Imam Ibnu Qayyim. Syeikh Ibrahim al-Huqail contohnya telah mengeluarkan fatwa bertajuk “Perayaan-Perayaan Kuffar Dan Kedudukan Muslim Terhadapnya” sebagaimana yang dikeluarkan di laman web Al- Islam Al-Yaum (www.islamtoday.net).Mereka mengharamkan ucapan tahniah kepada bukan Islam pada perayaan keagamaan mereka kerana perayaan-perayaan tersebut adalah dari syiar-syiar keagamaan mereka dan Allah tidak redha kepada hambanya yang kufur. Mengucapkan tahniah kepada mereka adalah salah satu tasyabbuh yang dilarang (www.onislam.net).Walaubagaimana pun, Dr Yusuf al-Qaradawi dalam fatwanya mengharuskan ucapan tahniah kepada bukan Islam dalam perayaan agama mereka selagi mana tidak menyambut perayaan tersebut dan sekadar ucapan tahniah kepada mereka sebagai tanda hubungan kemasyarakatan (www.qaradawi.net). Ucapan tersebut adalah kepada orang bukan Islam yang yang tidak bermusuh dengan Islam, khususnya kepada seseorang yang mempunyai ikatan tertentu seperti kaum kerabat, jiran tetangga, teman-teman pengajian, kawan-kawan sekerja dan sebagainya (www.qaradawi.net).Beliau berpandangan bahawa ucapan tahniah ini adalah salah satu daripada kebaikan (al-birr) yang tidak dilarang oleh Allah, bahkan Allah menyukainya sepertimana Allah menyukai orang-orang yang berbuat adil kepada mereka (www.qaradawi.net). Firman Allah S.W.T yang maksudnya: Allah tidak melarang kamu daripada berbuat baik dan berlaku adil kepada orang-orang yang tidak memerangi kamu kerana agama (kamu), dan tidak mengeluarkan kamu dari kampong halaman kamu; Sesungguhnya Allah mengasihi orang-orang yang berlaku adil. [Surah Al-Mumtahanah : 60, 8].Namun, perlu diingat bahawa ucapan yang ditujukan kepada mereka adalah suatu ucapan yang bukan digambarkan dengan keredhaan kita terhadap agama mereka tetapi semata-mata ingin menjaga hubungan dan berbuat baik kepada mereka. Sikap ini dari satu sudut menunjukkan Islam merupakan agama yang mengamalkan sikap toleransi dengan penganut agama lain dengan menjaga batasan syara’ yang telah ditetapkan.Majlis Fatwa dan Penyelidikan Eropah juga mengharuskan ucapan tahniah dan selamat ini jika mereka bukan termasuk orang-orang yang memerangi kaum muslimin khususnya dalam keadaan di mana kaum muslimin minoriti seperti di negara-negara Barat dan tidak menampilkan simbol mereka atau ucapan-ucapan keagamaan yang bertentangan dengan prinsip-prinsip Islam seperti tanda salib.Begitu juga Syeikh Muhammad AsSayyid Dasuki, pensyarah di Universiti Qatar mengharuskannya dengan sebab mujamalah dan menjaga hubungan yang baik (islamicfatwa.wordpress.com).Sementara itu Fadhilah al-Syeikh Mustafa Zarqa’ Rahimahullah Taala berkata: “Sesungguhnya ucapan tahniah seorang muslim kepada kenalannya yang bukan beragama Islam (kristian) ketika perayaan mereka pada pandanganku adalah bersifat mujamalah kepada mereka dan berbuat baik dalam pergaulan sesama mereka" (www.onislam.net).Berdasarkan pandangan para Ulamak tersebut, Majlis Penyelidikan & Tafaqquh (MPT), DUPP berpandangan bahawa adalah harus bagi orang Islam mengucap tahniah kepada penganut agama Hindu sempena perayaan Deepavali. Walaubagaimana pun ucapan tersebut mestilah tidak mengganggap dan mempercayai bahawa agama Islam adalah sama dengan agama Hindu. Ia juga mestilah tidak menggunakan sebarang simbol atau lambang keagamaan dalam ucapan mereka.PAS yang mempunyai kelebihan memiliki Dewan Himpunan Penyokong PAS (DHPP) akan menyesuaikan keadaan ini demi untuk mempastikan sambutan Deepavali berjalan lancar. DUPP akan cuba sedaya upaya mungkin agar perayaan ini tidak terganggu dan janggal disebabkan adanya penghormatan luar yang kadang kala membosankan penganut agama Hindu sendiri. DUPP sedar adanya beberapa keadaan yang tidak disenangi oleh masyarakat Hindu jika dicampuri urusannya oleh penganut-penganut agama lain.Deepavali: Hukum menyambut dan mengucap tahniah - http://m.harakahdaily.net/index.php/berita-utama/38294-deepavali-hukum-menyambut-dan-mengucap-tahniah

An islamic ways to trading?

An islamic way to trading? Is it even possible. I mean muslims are very careful when it's comes to money.They usually avoid interest because it is classified as riba in islam. Every riba that they make is a sign of rebellion to the god Allah.It is a really huge sins that make people go to hell. Why i'm telling you this is because i have stumble a platform that truly change my mind.

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A binary option with deposit as low as $250. Wow! That really a good news for me. Since i have a very little amount of money in my account. I check it's review,and i'm sure this is not a scam.So, after filling all the required fields in the form. I began to scrolling for information on the website.from bar to bar, i navigate and try to read what the site is all really about. I scrolled all their blogs, news, about, the education, survey etc.

And something catches my eyes. An islamic account for traders. Well that's new.Here are the snapshot of the thing i talked about.

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Protect your money

this video explains about your asset protection. Learn from robert kiyosaki how to avoid taxes,fines and secure your wealth. I really love his idea to end poverty by sharing what he knows. You can too..
Today start sharing all your knowledge with others. Remember,the more you give, the more you get back.

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What is a #Panda Nanny?Here's how 'fun' it is to look after these little things!
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A WALL MADE OF GOLD

Have you ever seen a gold bullion before?Some of you do. You maybe see 1kg of bullion gold.But this is totally a game changer.Watch how federal reserve bank arrange all of their bullion to make a wall. Superb!!!

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Bleach issue 650

What do you think about today's bleach content?
To me tite kubo is a sloppy writer. He should have at least make captain commander fight the quincy king.not his slave. It's unfair for a captain commander to have same level of power with the Quincy. He should have alot more. Well he is covering that up with his new bankai. It's so great to see that kyouraku has some secret in his sleeve. This will be a very powerful fight i guess. That quincy power is huge, i guess it is even more powerful than juha bach himself. The king palace should have crumble from that explosion earlier.thank god it isn't.
So, how about you? What do you think about bleach?
It is relevant for it to run a little bit longer or it should have stop sooner?
Tell me what you think.

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